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who everyone today we will focus on emotional intelligence often we don't talk about that we tend to focus on IQ but that aside today and will look at emotional intelligence you see this picture it's a very important part of your life does that mean that we're stars at that we're great at it but we do need that emotional intelligence and I will explain why okay so now maybe a one or what exactly is a mushroom tells it I'll expand on that here today as you can see are the bottom the different gears there are five different gears and we will expand on those today so you're billeted understand use and manage your own emotions and if your if your stress call time in certain situations at work or home or family regardless when you have that stress you still know how to regulate that in a positive way and having transparency and communication Clarity have an empathy what challenges do not save a lot and you can overcome those but when you have conflicts you know how to resolve those conflicts you can see in the gears here below if you were to take one of those beers out with it at work now so you have to have all five gears all five components to be successful a self-awareness is critical not only knowing what your own feelings are butt and brothers but to know what yours are as well what emotions do you have once you recognize that you have emotional response to something if you're angry or something then you need to is that why am I angry or suppose you're excited and you're jumping up and down you might want to ask yourself why are you excited are you sad happy by assessing yourself you can understand others battle also with the factors if you recognize that the people are upset or sad or angry or whatever you can look at them and try to figure out why what factors have influenced him to be an example no one knows five components for helping to sit down and talk with them to understand if you didn't have that you can jump to conclusions or assumptions or judgments and maybe looking down on the individuals empathy with my personality I think give it the my person feels just the most important one is that is I said this is the reason I say this is because when you notice someone is sad on their perception maybe we have one student who told me recently for example family member passed away and they were having a hard time focusing on school with all this going on so they were lost their focus was lost and so that means that we would need to sit down with it and imprison Tyrant they and show that so that that way they know we support them after that he was able to proceed better motivation you can't have motivation without having a positive attitude so you have to have a possible and have a goal continuing that I have noticed that students sometimes don't have motivation because they don't have an established go and have negativity in their thoughts and if you recognize that negativity energy capture that and how to find out why they're feeling - you can pull that out of them and hopefully they won't be able to express that and then you know you might be able to give him some positives and some some pros and cons are just shows a positive ways of reinforcing those things so that they can focus more on their motivation and reach their goals now that could be different goals it could be with work it could be traveling it could be with sports could be with school college there's a long list of goals that individuals have self-regulation Optimum someone gets mad and the things trigger than they only impulse say things are we having self-control yourself you know sure we all get angry but we have to stop and ask for sales why are we angry at you even have to discuss this with yourself first and figure out what that trigger is once I understand what I'm doing when I got angry then I can talk with other people and discuss with them about that anchor also you may have noticed it was angry or being upset or depressed another dip techniques to calm them down for myself when I get angry or get anxious I take about 10 seconds of deep breathing also this talks about long walks and I love long walks a main and they are we have beach in the ocean that's one of my favorite places when I'm stressed or angry or overwhelmed I always escape to the beach front cuz I know it's calm and Serene and I lots of great thoughts in the oceans is huge and so this helps me to calm down quickly it also helps me to figure out my thoughts better so you can see these five things here or self-control rather than being impulsive you to ask yourself why am I angry why am I mad why am I sad why am I anxious to ask yourself all these different things and also having that integrity and honesty with a residence 29 sometimes I noticed that this is a weak area for me or for others and in different situations it's important what we are feeling inside also if you make a mistake do something wrong denying it and covering it up yeah really just accept the responsibility let me give you one small example I made a mistake probably about a month ago I'm at the supervisors meeting and the comment itself that there was an issue with that and I went ahead and name the person that I should not have said that mean I meant to know I didn't intend to hurt anyone but I made that Aaron and already name the person so that's when I realized whether it's intentional or unintentional it still had an impact Carson's and it was unintentional but I know how does a new actor letting you know so we worked it out but also being transparent with the supervisor that had I'm accepting response responsibility for my error and so I think and I was showing respect I'm doing that by owning my mistake also I noticed that many people to be able to change it but I I'll make changes but sometimes people do not change things when there's a schedule change they prefer it to be the same or be consistent when there's a when you have to change around the staff different schedules the others many different reasons I said okay and summer not so you have to ask yourself maybe changes for the best it might not be but you may be able to hey this change didn't work and so then we can meet again that's that's why it was not successful in conversation about that and make some changes and once everyone is satisfied with their jobs going flexibility is the point I believe him and having flexibility and have your career be more successful new ideas did you have those and everybody brings their new ideas to the table be open to that maybe their ideas are really cool and it would be very beneficial to you know the college or the supervisor but I'm pretty sure he's going to be more open to new ideas you see the picture here in this chart I'll give you some time to look over a sense of scale I think are very important often I say kids their social skills are so so because maybe at home they don't have access to that growing up maybe they were mainstreamed and then they come to the residential school this is our opportunity to teaching as you say in this chart here is continuous exposure the only place really for them to learn so being able to connect with him emotionally I talked with him and working together with the students if you have empathy both ways then fix your fresh received in and Andre charcoals s is in this picture let's look at it often kids do not have coping skills and so this is our opportunity to teach them how to manage and improve are coping skills and understanding personal space I know sometimes we cross the boundaries or other children will just one another's boundaries personal boundaries and so teaching them about personal space is important and the boundary around those individuals turn taking when your own game boards or card games with are teaching them how to take turns and to play together and sports maybe they just love sports but this is your opportunity to help grow those skills in those areas expressing ideas and feelings and thoughts often kids do not do this well and sitting down with him and trying to pull that out as good now let me back up here you have to develop a good relationship with him first and wait I do that typically has the student observe them and I noticed that maybe for example if he lives dinosaurs now I grew up as a as a child growing up I love dinosaurs and so I would bring toys and explain in your hand shakes and growling and teeth and all these different things typical dinosaurs in movies for example Jurassic Park is one of my favorite movies it's the best day ever and so watching them out with it with the children and also here in Knoxville they have places can't remember if I can Expo where everybody came together and they have the Expo of dinosaurs but once you connect and bond with that child and they will trust you and they will be able to express my thanks to you once you've felt that relationship then it's easy and then on to be able to communicate with him so that's one example also another important thing is attitude having a positive attitude his students are angry and their but whenever whatever in in you let that connect with you that you need to put that aside and still have a positive attitude and being patient with  so there many different things there and also I would encourage you to once we have discussion today this presentation take the time and do the three books through the internet doing this testing read more and you will learn a lot about the subject important okay so maybe you want to what's the difference in emotional intelligence and intelligence quotient quotient I'll let you read this chart so in the chart for each year emotional intelligence based on emotion and how its assessed at the bottom I'll send you a link to where you can click on that at the end of the sneak and take a test that will help you assess as five different areas of emotional intelligence so you can see which areas you need to improve on or which areas you have strengths in in the last column intelligence quotient then we can go from zero to $200 or higher with it often intelligent people who have 140-150 IQ score I know they have tendency to have poor social skills you say people on average about 100 app is what we all say that if it's 70 or less they may have mental issues I hate to use that word retarded if those words and you know that those individuals who have 70 or below IQ can you be placed in group homes in South Forest but on average people about a hundred and that's what assessment typically show acquisition emotional intelligence means that you can learn and you can improve your skills in this area West with an IQ that's an innate saying if you're going with him and you move forward from there but thank you you could improve their you could improve your remote intelligence through learning and inability recognize and what your emotions are in in recognizing what the emotions are in and self-regulating and causes that emotion and it's really important to know so the one that meaning if you understand logically the thoughts then an abstract reasoning than you can thinking dancing and accessing and allows a little bit further about what causes this and so that's what I can but then ensure means that you're making sure Make You Dance to be more about your life in and wanting to be more successful as IQ focuses more on academics it can be part of that as well but most of your for your life and everyday living that involves each of your emotional intelligence IQ tends to focus on leadership and I'm handling management skills with others I'm sorry. IQ has to do with intelligence and Common Sense and mental challenges and things like that I could name one person Adolf Hitler example history shows his leadership was amazing and you how to speak effectively and draw people in his IQ is outstanding but people didn't realize you know how his words were so impactful on others and had bad influences and course we know what the results were six million Jews were killed because of his words his impact on others this is why my brother talking to himself and has a lot of emotional intelligence he was supportive and he's ordered the Jews and raise them up in a different way then today I wonder what it would look Donatos as long as you look at this picture for a minute I think that IQ is more important than EQ and really it's not a q is a very important part of your life In Motion until here are five factors as to why your career coaching leadership relationships and community so what careers if you think about it if you have low emotional intelligence and tell him I q and work not be great but then trying to your relationships with other people may not be good or you might be mad every time somebody says something you have a blow up and can make you look bad example my father very nice in with his hands on skill is is very skilled the one problem that he has which is emotional skills are not that great their lousy so if someone tries to tell him something and give him a task for what he's like is with no one likes me in cash but you know he can choose a better way to on how to approach things so my father or his career has been fired me times and he realized he had to change and what you made the change then today despite his fine so career is important h u m prove your emotional intelligence know how to connect with other employees and and get along coaching meaning this is not talking about coaching Sports it could be but this is more like with the students who have their own goals maybe they want to be successful in college or in training some sounds to take her somewhere or maybe they wanted their good at chess regardless of whatever it is that they have you have the ability to coach and encouraging give them a technical assistance or even techniques on how to be successful and then leadership as I recently mentioned was Hitler his leadership is emotional intelligence was horrible and see what the result of that was leadership needs to have a high IQ scale so as a l i need to be able to listen and work with each of you and get your suggestions I'm open to new ideas from you whenever there's a conflict situation then I got to go and resolve that issue and listen find out what's wrong so simple things like this and then relationship could be like marital relationships spousal parents friends work students so spare me important and then I like your community going out into the community if they want this made in something in the community our going to an event or I want to do fundraising here's a good example fundraising people would be motivated in the be eager to give if you have that leadership and positive attitude and strong goals then people will will be willing and then be touched and will be willing to give money for those things but think about it if you had a terrible attitude you're arrogant with your negative and stabbing people in the back with Baba blah you think the we would be happy or willing to give you money no not necessarily so this is why emotional intelligence is important and that means you're involving the community would be very successful so now I want to look at low emotional intelligence and how the factors that impact deaf people what they are and so you can see this on the chart in front of you so low emotional intelligence people we lost social emotional and just tend to blame others rather than doing a self-assessment and analyzing and accepting responsibility like I said just a few minutes ago. Are you giving that wonderful sample that you say you don't wrong to know I'm right I'm right round always right no no no no being clueless or oblivious to other people's feelings now care about them that's not important it's all about me not being selfish and maybe have it an awful Behavior or you have poor coping skills just mad all the time call Susan screaming and blaming everybody how do you say that person doesn't have any coping skills and so we have to back up and if I myself for example my personality is I get angry than I stop discussing things and I backup go outside take a while you're drinking water do some breathing think about why I got angry and analyze that and put notes on paper why didn't I get mad so far I feel ready to discuss it then I'll go and sit down with the other person be truthful and be honest about why I was angry so that they can understand why I was acting then we can work together I'm resolving that and then you're struggling with relationships you could be spousal it could be family Lee students Brands variety relationships if I'm in Tulsa then I get mad and I blow up and chew people out then relationships right now but after that they can decide you know maybe just to drive around with you so I don't want to be friends with you one of the person gets married advantage of being am not going to see you no more involved with them so that's people with low social low emotional intelligence so some of the factors there's a long list so I just want to break the mission if you hear lack of Nation at home so that doesn't mean that their families are perfect just because everybody family's death I came from a different Leave Myself I'm sure my father and I we could communicate but it died for example made up of a bad decision had bad behavior or something my father wouldn't just punish me or just let me know he would sit down with me and he would still let you know he has not like it didn't have that France Spanish mean that was the end of that criticize me and say whatever that was that was his approach but that was not successful for me so we did not waken commute we didn't really communicate in there so I didn't have really a strong relationship with my father often dip children when they're born to hearing parents do have no communication I want this I want that and they're angry or whatever but they have no communication so the parents made him to spoil them or give them whatever they want they dread him to try to take care of that or or just let him go in so that's a big problem also it can be language deprivation now that our language acquisition is usually between ages be around 5 and so having language structure means that you had the ability to sink through things you don't look at other people's feelings and have a theory and can communicate with them with language deprivation it's more self-centered and everything focuses on the individual themselves and so it has a huge impact language deprivation abuse and neglect the parents could be neglectful Miss is a baby shower I don't have the social skills and interests very awkward and angry and my situation arises I get mad and part of the reason is cuz if not been taught it's been no structure at home and enforce abuse if they have trauma then we need to work with them and help them and give them treatment therapy counseling that you put that aside and what are they supposed to do with that as they grow up and so they had a lot of problems drug and alcohol addiction option one another is expecting and then she's on drugs or drinks alcohol this game packs the fetus the baby for example sister I was going to say yes and that was from alcohol affecting her so there's a list that can affect your intelligence you can have learn a delays bone structure can be affected hole in the heart be caused by this a lot of things with FAS fetal alcohol syndrome show emotional responses are different from those individuals drugs cocaine Rock marijuana there's a lot of other things while pregnant can influence the baby so I still think I'm getting a little nervous i t h d when I was working one student years ago the mother was pregnant and she used drugs used cocaine so this child's very very hyper and trying to work with the child's challenge from that and that impacted their emotional skills I'll let you read yes I'll encourage you to think about this so do you want to help children to develop their emotional intelligence bottom line is to start with yourself it takes time to do self-analysis in observe how you respond it's a paper saying something and you yell out at him or whatever and you respond appropriately look at your work environment look at yourself and look at the people who work around you and and self-evaluation this perfect example I'm going to give you a link I want you to take your time to go through that test so you can see what area is that your idea where you have strengths that's great but this an opportunity for you to discuss what what things you need to work on and I can give you tips on how to improve this link let me go back to the previous side honesty is the key if you lie when you do this self evaluation then and you have that scorbutus high-score does that really matter you look at yourself and see and see in stressful situations. and it just give up blow-up disconnect do not want to deal with it this is happening with using this is your chance to do this analysis on yourself and figure out why also taking responsibility for your made a mistake on it be willing and truthful and accept that say yes I made a mistake and move on others will look at you and you'll earn their respect and them anymore because of that Discovery Place also analyze your actions and see how that impacts others Estonia if you do act a certain way to figure out this is what I do will this impact someone else or you can choose your words if you choose a specific word with adding pack someone else in a negative way so you need to think about that before you act and speak okay do you see the link below go ahead and go ahead and open it up and take the test recently I explained in the previous slides how important it is to be honest with yourself so this link has 40 questions you might say oh wow But realize that there are only two answers for each one can you get to choose which of those matches your personality again I want to emphasize be honest with yourself choose which of those B you better and then when you finish taking the quiz and you'll see the results and you'll get a store and then I'll have five areas self-awareness self-regulation motivation empathy and social skills are you saying me the different scores from 1 to 10 in each of those areas if you notice that you have a low score that's fine it's okay this is a chance this is the opportunity read the lawn mower you can come and see me we can have a discussion about it we can share the link that relates specifically have conversation about it you can ask me questions YouTube there are many different opportunities and resources that I can help you with thank you for watching and I hope that this presentation was help with you to understand about emotional and tell Eye Care